Relationship Guru Naya 3

Hello again everyone,

Have you noticed Guru has the somali root word Gur which means Marriage, something that we all strive to achieve while we are in a relationship. Well, we try anyway right?

This week I would like to give you a mental "PUSH" you all need to get closer with your lucky partner or soon to be *wink *wink. To basically get you back on that right path you started with.

Well basically we all hit that dirt road with our relationships, whether you just met one or like myself been in one for a long time. We all come to that road where nothing seems exciting like before or that routine is hard to get out of.

Listen, we are women, naturally we like to escape from the mundane to passionate conversations and exciting adventures. I think the secret of keeping it exciting is simply this; Don't share everything in the begining. Like forexample we all like to tap into our lives and get as much info as possible so we can feel connected and related on so many levels. At this point of the relationship with what I call The 4th degree to L.O.V.E. , just don't share so much. Keep some things to your self and reveal it when you feel its necessary. Now some of you may say, THERE IS NOTHING I HAVE TO SHARE TO BEGIN WITH (ahem) unless you are a hermit living in the mountains I understand, otherwise you are projecting something called "invisible block".
This is another dirt road that people hit as well. Think of a relationships as a map, a beautiful map of our lives that comes together and we all travel at the same speed, some people can be too fast or too slow. Sometimes there comes bumpy roads, other time we hit 'DEAD ENDS'. Some people take short cuts or I play the role of that person you ask for directions when lost. But eventually we will like to reach that final destination with each other and just enjoy the scenery either temporarily and go our seperate ways or for as long as we want to stay there.

There are road blocks to every relationships, the one challenge that is hard to get out of is Doubt. When we get to doubt the other person's capability of whether or not they are ready to travel on our Love Maps, you just finished the trip already. When we can't believe in someone, then what's the point of travelling with that person. For example, have you ever went with people on a ride and you speak to that one specific person for hours, get into each others heads and discuss everything? That's what I mean it's a long uncomfortable ride, with no breaks and just deep conversation. Yeah it helps pass the time by, but why would you waste someone's time getting so close then doubting them in the end.

That's what I mean about doubt it gives a bad taste in everyone's mouth. We all lead busy nothings in our daily lives. I can gaurantee you that what you are doing today is exactly what you were doing the week before or the month before. When someone comes into our lives, a special person, that mundane boring days become filled with adventures, excitement and you learn so much about yourself. Connecting with another soul is like recharging that battery.
Why get a little block like doubt in the way, just get rid of that old habit we all fall into so that we don't want to get close to someone, then we get back to our boring days and live a life filled with expected nothings achieving temporary highs.

Give people a chance, and give them your faith, it is hard enough to share our past, dreams, ideas, and one day futures. If you find someone you can relate with on sycronistic levels beyond comprehension and beyond explanation, then let the doubts go.
And the rest they say will be history ;-)

I hope I was a good guide today on your road bloc, stick around next week and I'll give you more guidance.
See the thing with relationships is that if you travelled that road before, then you become and expert, even once is a enough. I hope to get your input with your experiences and advice as well.

Don't get attached to one way of travelling down the same road, always take different routes.
Routine doesn't give you a chance to get to see all the beautiful scenes.

Bon Voyage!