I was listening to one of my favourite self-help authors on an online radio probably everyone knows his name, if you don't you will find his books mostly every where. Dr. Wayne Dyer was one of the first authors that reflected into words inspirational truths that help us to improve our lives.
One topic that stuck a chord with me today was his idea of "non-conformity." How it shapes all of our lives to direct us to our true paths. I reflected on my case including my two good friends on here. Briefly I will outline our non-confirming ways here,
Intelligent, open-minded. She's the kind of person who would go to any restaurant from any different countries. Boasting of having friends from every country in the world, she embodies the UN spirit. She inspires me with her passion for science and helping people beat cureable diseases specailly helping her people, Somalis. Naya 1 abviously did not fit in with her views growing up, when she was younger she dreamed about being an important scientist and making breakthroughs while the rest of us fantasized about becoming Mrs. Will Smith or Penny Hardaway ( I KNOW WE ALL DID ADMIT IT PEOPLE LOL) Her strength in her studies kept her out of many failings in our young women lately which is vanity and getting pregnant young out of wetlock. She stood above it all and made a great impact not only to inspire my younger sister but all the sisters out there. Keep up the good work Naya 1, you don't need props but keep doing what your doing and save us all! jk Madagascar could never be prepared for a person such as yourself, I hope one day you make it there and pursue your breakthrough ideas.
Also intelligent more so with the literal word, she is the kind of person who you can discuss any type of subject like philosophy, politics, and ofcourse religion. We all have interests in these fields but no one like Naya 2 commands to memory better than anyone I've known.
She stands out to this day for her command of words and the wisedom she aqcuired for such a young person. I feel that non of us has endured her hardships, and these were lessons that molded her to be a strong woman who will one day receive the attention she unknowingly commands. But I feel that her non-conformist ways stem from not only reading and thinking differently from the rest of us, but her compassion for all. She stands out as a hijabi, even being that she speaks freely her thoughts while still adhering to Islamic modestly. Dangerous combination I think. I know for a fact words have been the movement of her life. So far her true inspiration is the Quran, and trust me with my ignorance about it to this day, she can make it plain and understanable even to anyone, which is rare indeed. You know Naya 2 no one can be you and that should be enough for you ;-). Keep inspiring us with your life and spirit. I found a good quote to discribe you by William Arthur Ward, "The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires." One day you will be our great Teacher for all Somalis....
That's me! I feel that I have been blessed and lucky to have 2 young ladies like these to connect with intellectually, personally, and nationally. It is not by accident that we all met at the same time in the same University. Together we fit in with one another, and seperately we stand out (RIGHT NAYAAS?) When we get together and just hang-out, the stuff we talk about would never be enough to fit into this blog. This blog is a small example to share our uniqueness and dispell the tired stereotype that somali women are just good for breeding 10+ kids. Even though we are able to over populate this country, its not our passion. We all stand out to set an example to other women that you can still be religious, smart, successful, and have a good relationship.
My non-conformist ways all began with always wanted to be just like the boys. Physical strength was my passion till I was 17 and got into a car accident with my brother. Not serious but serious enough to tell me that I was not invincible. At the time that most somali girls in my highschool hanged out 2 discuss make-up, Aldo shoes, and guys ofcourse. I was climbing cliffs, snowboarding, and doing down-hill mountain biking. True eventually I ended up being in a relationship with a professional biker/snowboarder. We still did have that passion for nature, and physical strength. Rock Climbing was my dream career, and at the age of 16 I was doing things I even couldn't believe physcially. I stayed in shape till like the last 2 years. LOL marriage does that to you. But that spirit is still there, I wish still to be an inspiration as a fitness expert one day. Just that accident scared me, but it did change me, it made me look into the spiritual side of life. Back then, I don't think I even thought about death, but after that's all I ever thought about. The ironic story is my husband got to his car accident (4 years ago) and wasn't able to work out due to his injuries kinda like me, it made him spiritual too. One day I'll talk about our coincidences that led to our union. I left that professional biker/snowboarder because he didn't understand my spiritual side. I used to think like him, that we are the "ubermanch" super human. Though, being that way kept me out of trouble, and helped me do well in school. I was proud of having physical strength, enough to beat my older brother (every sisters dream LOL) but then something was missing, and that hole left by that accident has been my passion ever since. I started being religious which sorta explained things but not fully, then I became rebellious. Then I had a so called experience one night that changed my life, another story to talk about another time. But events since then has led me to who I am today, and that little girl who wished to be the next Bruce Lee/ Xena still exits. Only now I see the world has more wonder than I ever thought existed.
Our Non- Conformist ways should leave you with this that you can be smart and cultured like Naya 1. A literal genius and Islamic inspiration like Naya 2. Lastly, being strong somali women is our ancestral inheritence. We were the builders of homes back then and nations. Conforming to little nothings is a sad example to set for young women. My non-conformist ways might not be easiest to adopt, but I too wish to bestow something profound. Just be your unique true self like my friends here, and everything else shall follow your lead....
~I hope I stayed true to my Nayaas personalities,
The door is open for you ladies of course to include your personal
life stories of a non-conformist. It is not a bad thing really, not fitting in
has made you the way you are~
Till then, PEACE